Farewell Celebrations

Angel of Grief

 “In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the LORD, weeping bitterly. And she made a vow, saying, ‘LORD Almighty, if you will only give me a child, then I will give him back to the LORD…'” 

1 Samuel 1:10-11

There are ways to honor your little one, regardless of just how little he or she is.

These ideas are specific to recognizing the life and death of your baby – at any time, including funeral planning and keepsake items to purchase from different organizations.  There are also many personalized birth plan options to help you celebrate the life of your baby during the labor and delivery.

Celebrating

  • A very young, unrecognizable baby:
  • A baby not buried:
  • A baby from a long time ago:
  • release a balloon, perhaps with a small letter or prayer attached
  • using a very small piece of paper or colored tissue paper, you can draw a picture or write a note and flush that during the time of your bleeding
  • farewell words and music (can be included in the unofficial burial)
  • some funeral homes offer a memorial wall or garden for names of babies that are not buried there
  • donate to a pro-life charity or towards a life-affirming ultrasound machine at a local crisis pregnancy center
  • donate to your doula to ensure she will have the financial means to provide adequate support to the next pregnancy loss family she cares for
  • donate to an organization or business that offers discounted or free pregnancy loss resources (such as Mason’s Cause or AngelNames.org)
  • raise funds for your local perinatal or pediatric hospice/palliative care
  • volunteer to help minister to and encourage other mothers
  • place a birth and/or death announcement in your local newspaper so that you can keep that for your own keepsake
  • create a birth or a death announcement (or both) in a postcard or other format
  • blog about your story or in other ways reach out and share your experience
  • share your experience with us here at this site (we’d be honored and blessed)
  • spread the word offers a “Blog Button” and other ways to help others
  • unofficial burial (including baby clothing and casket information).
  • order a stillbirthday cake
  • special remembrance jewelry (See our list!  There’s a lot!)
  • special momentos (See our list!  There’s a lot!)
  • making an unofficial Certificate of Birth  as a momento

Celebrating 

Ideas for Dads:

  • Dads can honor the real life and the real death of their babies in special and unique ways, including any of the above ideas.  For more suggestions, visit our “family and friends” article, and see the section for gift ideas for dads, in addition to our link to more support resources for dads.

Things that may not be very helpful:

  • believing or acting as though the burial location is a nursery or that the baby is somehow living there
  • volunteering for long-term projects in your baby’s name, because if you cannot follow through you may be left with tremendous guilt
  • naming a pet or another child the same name as your lost child

You may know someone who’s lost a baby many years ago, and never thought there were options for their family to honor their little one.  No time or distance can deter a mother from celebrating the life, and death, of her child.  If you are that mother, you can still honor your child.  You can choose from different items on this page, too, in particular, the ones for celebrating a very young baby.

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