This information is specific to the God-honoring celebration of pregnancy created by Doran Richards of the Blessing God’s Way website and resources.
It is the first and only blessingway specifically created to honor pregnancy, to honor the mother, and to validate the very real life, and death, of your baby.
It is extremely helpful to purchase the materials direct from the Blessing God’s Way website. The link for purchasing the items is here. The DVD/booklet combo (item 4 on the list) is very helpful, as are the additional items available for sale at the site.
Tips to make this celebration successful for the mother:
- A Celebrating Pregnancy blessingway is a time of intimate fellowship. The mom’s closest friends and most special people should be all who are invited. Please keep the guest list less than about 16 people. (consider Proverbs 12:26, Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 20:6, Proverbs 27:9, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, Romans 5:10,)
- The celebration should be in an inviting and soothing location, where the mom is comfortable being. (consider Psalm 23:4, Zephaniah 3:17)
- The celebration should be a time of validating the moms mixed and real emotions, as well as a time to celebrate the very real blessing of her child, even for the very short time the child is here on earth. (consider John 14:18, 1 Corinthians 13:8, Romans 8:1)
- The celebration should be personal; there is no exact “one right way” to host one.
- The celebration should include singing praises to God for the very real life, with a very real purpose, of the baby. (consider Psalm 100:1-2, Colossians 3:16, John 15:13, Philippians 1:6)
- It should include praying over the mother, praying for her family, and praying for her heart, as she faces the birth and death of her baby. (consider James 5:13, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
- It should include personalized gifts, brought by every person attending. These can include written scriptures, poems, or a letter, to be read aloud by the giver, to the mother, at the celebration. Other gifts may include: a journal, an inspirational book about infant loss, a handmade baby blanket. (consider Romans 11:29, Galatians 5:22-23, James 1:17)
- Consider printing out the full scriptures used in this article (not just the Bible addresses), and other special scriptures and quotes, on pretty paper, and use to fill the room with them. Collect them at the end of the celebration, so that the mother can fill her home with these lovely, encouraging words. You can quickly look up these passages at Bible Gateway.
- It is important that each guest demonstrate the importance this baby has had on that individual. It is okay to cry. It is okay to say “I’m sorry”. It is okay to give the mom a hug. (consider Judges 20:26)
- A tea candle should be lit after each gift is presented to the mother. (consider John 8:12, 2 Samuel 22:29, Psalm 27:1, Job 3:4 – the light was a part of his very real birth)
- Special, personal gestures of love toward the mother should be made during this celebration, including brushing her hair, putting flowers in her hair, and washing her feet with a lovely scent (lavender perhaps) and with warm, clean water. Touching the mother and singling her out in love is important. It should be decided prior to the celebration who will wash the mothers feet. This is a very personal, and very honoring, gesture. (consider Proverbs 27:9, John 15:13-15)
- Consider taking photographs of the celebration, to send to the mother, to remember her special celebration and fellowship.
- The celebration should close in a prayer over the ladies present and families represented, and over the meal that is to follow. (consider John 14:27, 2 Peter 1:5-6)
- The meal should consist of one item brought by each guest. Leftovers should be given to the mother to take home.
The focus of this celebration is to honor her as mom, to share feelings, and to encourage and uplift one another. The tone should be kept inspirational, validating and loving.